Tuesday, February 26, 2008

Quick update

Thank you everyone for your words of support and comfort -- they are so appreciated.

He is discussing counselling -- and I've made it clear that we go nowhere without it. He obviously has issues that he needs help to deal with. And counselling would not hurt me, or the kids either.

For those who have concerns for our safety -- he has never physically abused me, nor even threatened to do so while angry. So, please don't worry about our physical safety. We're fine -- if a little frazzled and stressed.

I've adjusted my work week, at least for this week, so that I am with the kids before and after school, working from home when I can. They need to know that they can count on me.

I know I'm no angel, not perfect, but I know the way he has treated me for my imperfections is so off. And I said and did things on Sunday, in reaction to him, that I am not proud of. I have apologized to him and to the kids.

I do feel somewhat vindicated in that the attorney, his co-workers, and the counsellor have all indicated that they feel he is way off-base and over-reacting. Obviously, if these things are bothering him enough to cause an outburst like Sundays, they need to be addressed.

So, we'll see. It's one day at a time. And, regardless of how this ends, I know I will come through it stronger and better. I am a survivor.

Hugs to you all.


emily said...

This is my first visit to your blog Robin. I followed your link from Emilie's blog.

I just wanted to send you my very best wishes and pray that this works out the way it's supposed to for you and our family. Any relationship that invovles children rather it's a spanking relationship or not makes it 10 x's harder. The kids just add that special bond to the relationship. My ex husband was very vanilla and it was the toughest thing I ever had to go thru when we divorced. I wished so much that we could have worked it out for our children. I grew up with my parents divorced and remarried and never wished for that to be the life for my children. My step parents are great dont get me wrong.

My sincerest regards and I hope for the very best for you and your youngins..


Robin said...

Hi Emily,
Thank you for your kind words and sharing.
Relationships aren't necessarily easy at the best of times, let alone when things aren't good.
We're holding our own, a sort of strained peace. He's actively looking for a counsellor, but it's still just one day at a time of working to get along.
We'll see.
Thanks again for visiting (Emilie was so sweet to put up that post).

Will said...

I'm a new reader here.
I just wanted to wish you all the best.

It's seems you've got a lot of strengths to draw on. Keep a positive attitude, and be direct in your wishes.

Good Luck,
and a hug,


Robin said...

Hi Will,
Welcome and thanks for commenting (and for the hug :D )
We've got an appt with a counsellor next week (my husband is out of town this week).
I keep saying this, but it's the truth -- it's just one day at a time.

Anonymous said...

Hello Robin...I read about your situation on Emilie's blog, and although I'm supposed to be a "macho" male and all that crap, my heart still aches whenever I see a young woman like yourself having to suffer the indignities of breakup, especially a contentious breakup.
Warm hugs to you.
The Serial Spanker (Thomas)

Robin said...

Hi Thomas,
First of all, thanks for calling me a young woman :D
And there's nothing wrong with a little "macho"ness... particularly where spankings are concerned :)
Hopefully we're not heading for a breakup -- he's agreed to counselling, has been apologizing profusely, and is trying to be better. Time will tell.
And thanks for the hugs.