Orgasm meme from vanimp

From vanimps blog http://vanillaimpaired.com/

1. What’s your favourite way to have an orgasm?
Any way I can. Seriously, it really does depend on mood and circumstances. Sometimes I want to be by myself, sometimes I want someone else involved.
2. Do you use a sex toy? Hands? or both?
Both, though not usually at the same time. At work, in the car, it's my hand. At home if I want to make it quick, again it's my hand, but if I'm looking for intense and drawn out, I'll bring out the toys. Especially the Hitachi.
3. Do you have a favourite time of day or night that you like to pleasure yourself or have sex?
My horniness has no time restraints. Sometimes it's morning, somtimes afternoon, sometimes in the middle of the night.

4. Do you feel you have different types of orgasms?
Definitely. DH usually starts things out by making sure I have a clitoral orgasm. When he goes down on me, I get internal and external attention, usually leading to at least a g-spot orgasm. And usually if we go straight to intercourse, even if I orgasm multiple times, I have to finish up with a clitoral or I don't feel completely done. Sometimes I take care of this myself, sometimes DH will.

5. Do you have a position or a technique that always guarantees an orgasm?
Nope. I can achieve it standing, sitting, on my back, on my side, on my stomach, up on all fours. Haven't tried upside, but that would probably work too.
6. Is having your clit directly stimulated pleasurable for you? What about after an orgasm?
Um, around it, Oh yes. Right on the tip, generally too intense.
My entire body is a wee bit too sensitive for me right after orgasm for me to be touched anywhere, let alone there. Give me a minute or so...
7. Do you masturbate/pleasure yourself?
Yep, frequently.

8. Has your self pleasuring repertoire/routine/technique changed or evolved over time?
Basics stay the same, but different toys, locations, desires for the session lead to different techniques.

9. Are sex toys part of your self pleasuring or with a partner? Or both?
I use toys on myself, and DH uses toys on me, and DH sometimes watches me using my toys.
10. If you enjoy using sex toys how often do you upgrade your equipment?
Infrequently, mainly due to cost. The good ones tend to be things I need to plan ahead a save for. Right now I'm pretty much on a replacement only program.
11. Whats the most intense orgasm you have ever had?
It was during anal, after I'd already come once through DH's manual manipulations, then multiple times during intercourse.
12. How often do you orgasm? Daily, more than once a day, weekly, monthly….???
Average 6-8 times a week, through masturbation and intercourse. Sometimes multiple times a day.
13. Do you regard orgasm to be a stress reliever?
Can be. Especially when it's the middle if the night and I can't sleep.
14. What happens to you after orgasm? Full of energy, a bit lala or ready to go to sleep?
Depends on how I was before the orgasm.
15. Have you ever squirted?
Yep.
16. Do you fantasize when you masturbate? Or do you just get right down to it?
Oh, yes. Although, sometimes, just reaching down and starting the touching will get things started, and then I'll start fantasizing.

17. What do you like about having an orgasm? Is it important you have an orgasm every time?
Um, what's not to like? It feels sooooooo darn good, inside and out.
If I'm masturbating, or DH is masturbating me, then yes it's important that I orgasm. During intercourse, it's fabulous if it happens, but if everything else about the sex is great, it's just the icing on the cake -- good but not necessary.


*hugs*
Robin

Getting to Know You

Getting to know you (found over on Subhearts blog)

Here’s what you’re supposed to do and try not to spoil the fun. Copy this entire post and paste into a new one that you can post. Change all the answers so that they apply to you. Then tag anyone you want.

Be sure to link back to me too! I want to see your answers!

1. What is your occupation?
Technically, analyst, but seems more like jill-of-all-trades
2. What color are your socks right now?
Not wearing any at the moment
3. What are you listening to right now?
The Mentalist (tivo'd)
4. Can you drive a stick shift?
I think I remember how ~~ it is how I learned to drive
5. What was the last thing you ate?
pizza

6. If you were a crayon, what color would you be?
Emerald green
7. Last person you spoke to on the phone?
My hubby (he's travelling for work, again)
8. Do you like the person who sent this to you?
Well, I don't know her personally, but I do enjoy her blog and tweets :)
9. How old are you today?
Just turned 42 and a half this month
10. Favorite drink?
Other than water? Dr. Pepper ~ regular, diet, cherry, cherry vanilla, etc.
11. What is your favorite sport to watch?
If I'm watching sports, it's not by my choice
12. Have you ever colored your hair?
Yes, frequently since college
13 What is your full name?
Now, come on, you don't really expect me to tell you that
14. Favorite food?
Hmmm, I think Mexican would have to top the list
15. Last movie you watched?
Up
16. Favorite Day of the year?
Any day I get to spend on my own, no work, no kids, no hubby, etc.
17. What do you do to vent anger?
Stew/sulk and clean house.
18. What was your favorite toy as a child?
I don't really remember a lot of toys ~~ I do remember doing a lot of building with Lincoln Logs, blocks, LEGOS...
19. What is your favorite season?

Spring and fall (I can't pick just one)
20. Hugs or kisses?
Both, both, both
21. Cherry or Blueberry?
Cherry all the way ~~ this was the one thing I craved during all 3 pregnancies
22. Do you want your friends to post back?
Only if they want to ~~ absolutely no pressure
23. Who is most likely to respond?
?
24. Who is least likely to respond?
?
26. When was the last time you cried?
Really wept ~ a while ago; got teary ~~ last week
27. What is on the floor of your closet?
OMG. Trust me, you don't really want to know (hell, I don't really want to know)
28. Who is the friend you have had the longest that you are sending this to?
Really doesn't apply as I'm not really sending this to anyone
29. Favorite smells?
Vanilla, various florals (carnation, rose, honeysuckle, frangipani, etc.), new rain, fresh mown grass, the seashore
31. Inspires You?

Anything/everything ~~ nature, people, music, the written word, art, etc.
32. What are you afraid of?
Ending up alone and destitute
33. Plain, cheese or spicy hamburgers?
Fully loaded (like I can get from 5 Guys)
34. Favorite car?
Whatever works, although I'm partial to SUVS and trucks as I can see farther
35. Favorite cat breed?
Any (except for maybe the hairless ones, they look so alien)
36. Number of keys on your key ring?
3
37. How many years at your current job?
5 and a half with the company, 4 in my current position
38. Favorite day of the week?
Probably Sunday, as it tends to be the most relaxed
39. How many states have you lived in?
6
40. How many countries have you lived in?
2 (but I've visited 13)

I'm not going to tag anyone ~~ just do it if you want to.

And feel free to comment or question my responses.

Just catching up...

Been a lot going on lately, in my mind anyway :)

Kids are out of school, so driving me a little crazy on the days I work from home.

New kitten also drives me crazy, walking all over my computer(s) and papers, chewing on and ripping papers and cords. But he's so cute.... [Please stand by while I upload some pics from my camera and iPhone... *Jeopardy music plays*]





















Adorable, isn't he? DH has named him Caesar (although sometimes it sounds like he's calling him Scissor *laugh*). And yes, that is my bare shoulder in that one shot.

**Work ~~ well, as I mentioned in my last post, is difficult. My boss was out on Tuesday, teaching me some new responsibilities, going over the past year performance (hard to do since he's only been my boss a few months, and last year's boss is gone), and coming up with goals for the rest of this year into next. It's difficult to explain all this without giving too much information... In short, the system change last year was not well implemented, particularly for my department. People apparently did not think it was too important to make sure everything was set up on time and properly. Consequently, here we are almost a year later, still struggling and so far behind that it's hard to imagine ever being caught up. But now that I know how to do a few more things, maybe, just maybe, things will get better. Also, we discussed my work schedule once I am moved to HQ ~~ I will continue with at least 2 days per week working from home, and my hours will in office will be flexible. I'm hoping it works out ~~ seems pretty apparent that they really, really don't want me to leave. DH is really pushing me to try and find something closer to home, but I do want to see how this works out. I just dread the process of finding, getting and starting a new job.

**Our anniversary ~~ We went out for a late dinner Saturday night. I semi dressed up ~~ corset with garters and stockings under a cardigan and jeans (kitty tried to help, attacking corset ties and garters). For fun, I applied edible body glitter: chest, back, backside, frontside :D (you get the idea). DH noticed while at dinner, wanting to know if I was trying to get everyone to look at my "boobs". "Only you," I replied. To which he replied that he didn't need any help noticing my boobs, or any other part of my body. Got home, snuggled and touched while waiting for the kids to head to bed. Then had all sorts of good fun. I won't bore you with the details :P

Then Monday, the actual date of our anniversary, DH called to wish me a happy anniversary after he got to work. He complained that I didn't say it to him when he left, but I was mostly asleep then. Woke up just enough to lean across the bed for our standard good-bye kiss. He brought me a card when he came home ~~ full of nice sentiment about how even when things get hard we stick together:

A happy marriage
is what happens
while two good people
are busy
trying to make it through
another year of
paying their bills,
running their errands,
doing their chores,
keeping sight of their dreams
and, somehow,
always finding the time
to show how much they care.

Our life is pretty busy,
and I may not always say
everything that comes
into my mind and heart each day,
but what really matters in my world
is that we are together,
and h0wever busy life may get,
I don't forget that... ever.

Monday was very busy and I didn't get a chance to get anything for him, so I dressed up special for him that night. Unfortunately, an issue arose with our son and all my plans were thrown straight out the window.

So, all in all, it wasn't a bad anniversary :/

**The DUI ~~ DH's license will be suspended for a month starting the 24th. Fortunately, he's been able to arrange his work travel so he will be out of town for most of that period. When he's here, he's got to make other arrangements to get around. Once the suspension is over, he'll have a machine installed in his car that will test his blood alcohol level before it will allow the car to start. I will need to do the driving when we go out as a family, but he'll be able to drive himself around in his own car. Of course, all this means I will be the one doing all the driving when we head out to Los Angeles for the 4th of July. I won't like it, but I'll be fine. It was cute, however, when on Thursday DH called to apologize for all the trouble his DUI is causing me.

** DH has ordered himself a new laptop and bought a new color printer with it. Yeah! Been wanting to get one for a long while, but just hadn't gotten around to it. And, surprise, surprise, he seems to have actually picked out a good one: scanner, printer, copier, fax; photos in multiple sizes; wireless. Did a test print of a photo on regular paper and it came out really good. I have high hopes. (Last time he was all excited about the printer he got, it was not color, toner could only be purchased from the manufacturer, and cost an arm and a leg).

Can't believe June is half over. Looking forward to the long weekend around the 4th ~~ my sister and her family are supposed to meet us for a day in Disneyland. Can't wait. No, seriously. I love Disneyland. We used to go quite often when we lived in SoCal. YC has no memories of it; she was 1 when we moved away, and only 3 or 4 when we last visited. And at 8, she is tall enough for all the rides. I do realize it will be hot and busy, but we'll survive ~~ I'll coat myself in SPF 100+, wear a hat, drink lots of water.... Someday, maybe we'll make it to DisneyWorld...

Hope everyone out there is enjoying June ~~ whether it's your spring or your fall :)

So, How Ya Doin'?

Please don't ask unless you really want to know...

Ok, you've been warned.

I am...
Bleh.

Yep, bleh. I am tired, physically, mentally & emotionally. I am achy all over (5th headachy day in a row). Tired of being congested. Tired of having to watch every penny. Tired of having to deal with the same crap day after day. Tired of my sucky life... Basically pretty darn miserable all 'round.

Tired of being the person 'they' all run to when they need something (done, fixed, bought, etc.). Yes, it's nice to know you're needed, but really, I'm to believe there is no one else, anywhere, who could also take of whatever? Right.

Work stresses -- still understaffed, underpaid, and overburdened. My piles never get any smaller, no matter how much I do. Oh, and they're closing the facility where I work, and transitioning my position to HQ, more than doubling my commute. But because the two places are less than 50 miles apart, I'm not eligible for severance. So it's either move to HQ or quit. My boss did emphasize that they don't want to lose me and will be flexible with my schedule so I won't need to be there everyday... But still, it's easily a 2hr drive one way. We'll just have to see. If I stay through the end of the year I will get a special bonus.

And DH-- where to start, what to say. Can't help but think that everyone must be tired of hearing about our ups and downs. I know I'm tired of living through/with them. Long story short, May 24 he pulled a "Mr. Hyde" again, left and didn't come home until mid-afternoon Monday. And continued to behave poorly and blame everything on everyone else (mainly me). He has continued to be pissy with everyone, but especially our son. He's only making nice with me, so it seems, because he's been horny and wanting some action. I let him have his way last night, but I was so not into it, emotionally especially.

And you know what's on Monday? Our 16th wedding anniversary. I saw the reminder pop up and was not thrilled. In your mind, try to hear me so "oh god" in a "I am not happy about this at all" tone of voice. Seriously, I went over his schedule in my mind, hoping he'd be out of town (no luck as he still has DUI stuff he's dealing with), then hoped that if I said nothing, he'd forget and I wouldn't have to deal with it or face it. No such luck. He has remembered and is now planning our night out.

I want to cry every time I hear "Her Diamonds" by Rob Thomas. Go look up the lyrics - I think you'll understand why. (I can't copy and paste on this).

I don't know what the answer is, although a week or so of solitude sounds very appealing. Unfortunately, that's unaffordable, on so many levels. So, I'll just continue as I am, slogging through everyday, hoping things/I get better.

Although, you know, just getting all this out, I feel a little less burdened.



-- From My iPhone

DH in trouble cont.

So it's now Saturday night, and I'm just exhausted. Along with the early morning activity, I'd also had insomnia the night before, and been battling a cold/sinus problem for the previous week -- all leaving me just wiped. DH had napped during the afternoon/early evening, so he was refreshed and watching sports.

I thought the perfect thing before bed would be a relaxing bath. And since we'd just gotten the second water heater fixed, I could be fairly certain it would be a nice hot one. So about 11pm I climbed into my nice hot tub, dropped in a Lush Tisty Tosty and a bit of French Kiss bubble bar, put in my earphones, opened my book and relaxed. The rose, lavender and vanilla from the Lush bath goodies were perfect for relaxing. I also kept the iPod on a milder playlist ~~ I so desperately needed relaxation.

I will say I was surprised that DH didn't come in and join me, as he usually does, but it was okay that he didn't.

I stayed in for the better part of an hour, then clambered out, dried off, slipped into my robe and headed into the bedroom. I was so tired, I really didn't even completely dry myself off, nor apply any lotion, or even put any clothing on. When DH commented on my lack of apparel, my honest answer was it was just too much work to put anything on.

Even though DH was involved with watching the game, it didn't take him long to let me know he had other things on his mind. We watched the end of the game (yeah our team!) then switched to SNL (recorded) while snuggling. DH threw the covers off me and announced that he thought he'd like to go down on me. Like I was going to object to that :P. And down he went. Can I just say that DH has gotten much better at this over the years. I don't easy orgasm from oral, but with the right combination of lips, tongue and movement of inserted fingers, oh yeah.

Then it was my turn to reciprocate, lavishing oral attention on him. Until he can't take it anymore and orders me up on the bed. And you all know what happens then ~~ S-E-X. Sweaty, pounding, multi-orgasmic (for me, anyway) sex.

And as I lay there in the afterglow, sometime after 1am, DH turned to me and said, "Happy Mother's Day". With a big grin on his face.

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Sunday dawned and while DH himself couldn't sleep and was up at 6am, he let me sleep in. Which I did, 'til about 9am, watched TV for awhile, then couldn't take it anymore, got up and got dressed. Even with it being Mother's Day, I still had laundry to do, and I wanted to get it done and over with.

As I was working on things, the kids came filing in with a card. I hugged them all, even MC who attempted to avoid me.

DH came up soon after, looking for some more "action". No way I could turn him down. (Let's see, Friday morning, Sat. night/Sun. morning, and Sun. afternoon ~~ goodness.)

YC made the cutest gift for me. It was made to look like a Time magazine, with Mother of the Year on the front (she even drew me with my blue FitFlops on). Inside, the kids were given prompts and then they filled in the rest. I just have to share. Her comments are in italics.

• My favorite thing to do with Mom is... snuggle with her at night [this is a must every night before bed] ~~ decorated with a hand held bouquet and the caption "I picked flowers for you"
• My mom doesn't even get mad when I... don't clean my room. [only because I get too tired just looking it at]
• I like it when Mom... hugs me. Decorated with a wrapped packaged tagged To Mom, From YC
• Ihave the most fun with Mom when... we play a game on the computer [we like picture searches and puzzles]
• My favorite food that Mom cooks is... cashew chicken because she puts in extra veggies [I'm just trying to stretch it and make it a bit healthier, but if she really likes that...] Decorated with a heart with "I love you Mom" written on it.
• My mom makes me laugh when... tickles me when I have the hicups and she tries to get them to go away. [And even though she begs me to stop, as soon as I do, she wants me to tickle her some more]
• I love my mom because... she cooks for me. [Um, yeah, really not that often or that well, but I will do her favorites]
• My mom makes me feel special when... she does something just for me. [She's my baby, of course I love doing things just for her] Decorated by a "Mom on board" sign
• My mom took good care of me when... I was sick last November. [It was election week and she missed 3 out of 4 school days, and I took her to the dr. and helped her take her meds and use the inhaler, and let her snuggle and sleep with me.]
• My favorite book that Mom reads is... There's a Monster at the End of this Book [used to read this too her all the time, funny Grover voice and all] Decorated with a drawing of the cover of the book.
• My mom is special because... she loves every single person in my family even my anoying brother [aahhh, that's my sweet baby]

So it was a relaxing afternoon, and then the kids and I decided to go out. DH was tired and stressed, so he stayed home while I took the kids out to grab a quick bite and then do a little shopping so DH could cook dinner. Yummy keema with potatoes, lentils and kebabs. And then the kids had to clean up.

All in all, a very nice Mother's Day.

DH in trouble

I hope everyone had a great weekend, especially all the mothers.

I actually had a very nice weekend and Mother's Day (and, yes, you do detect a note of surprise there). My family (my husband) is not very good with celebrations, unless I do all the planning and work, so I wasn't expecting much. Especially since DH just got me the iPhone a couple of weeks ago and said it was my Mother's Day gift. I knew I'd get something from YC as she is still in elementary school and gift making is part of the curriculum.

But.... DH owed me....

Let's start back on Friday.

I was working from home and the kids had no school, so it was a bit of a relaxed morning; relaxed enough that DH and I had time for a little fun before he needed to head out the door. Nothing like starting the day with a little erotic spanking, foreplay and multi-orgasmic sex (discovered later that DH left some love bites on my shoulder and the back of my neck). That evening, DH decided to go out ~~ normal for a Friday ~~ while I stayed home, watching TV, snuggling with YC. Sometime after midnight, I turned everything off and drifted off to sleep.

Only to be awakened at 1:30 a.m. by the ringing phone. We have caller ID, but I didn't know the caller ~~ the name looked like some sort of code. But it included our state... and in that moment I knew, just knew, that it was DH and he was in trouble. Arrested. DUI.

(I want you to know DH is not an alcoholic and does not have a drinking problem ~~ he only goes out a few times a month. Also, he said it was okay to blog about this ~~ maybe someone out there has had a similar experience and can offer advice.)

I got directions to the state police facility where he was being held ~~ way the hell out in the boondocks. And at 2am I headed out the door to get to him. I had lots of time to think about how I would react and decided to keep calm. He's an intelligent man and I knew I wouldn't say anything he hadn't already said to himself, and he didn't need me adding to his guilt and stress. So I paid the bond and waited. We got home around 3am.

He talked all the way home. He'd been at one place, got a call from a friend at another place and DH went to go join him. Since DH was in a rush to get there before his friend left, he was driving a little too aggressively ~~ tailgating and an illegal lane change (unfortunately, DH does not have to be drinking to drive this way, it's pretty normal). This is what got the officer's attention. And of course, once DH was pulled over, the officer could tell he'd be drinking and did all the standard tests. DH thought he was doing well, but the officer's notes indicated that he failed the tests. So, on went the handcuffs and off he went to jail.

It was obvious how bad he felt about the whole thing. No anger towards the police, just towards himself. I just made sure I was there for him, making supportive comments and gestures. One of the ways I could tell how upset he was ~~ as we finally laid down to sleep he curled up behind me, wrapped his arms around me, and fell asleep holding me tight. We don't generally sleep like this ~~ it's too uncomfortable. But it was what he needed.

Up Saturday and off to the impound yard. Kids of course had questions about where was Daddy's car. I just told them it was towed, figuring it was up to DH to tell them as much or as little about what happened.

Then it was computer searches for attorneys and phone calls and reviews of the tickets and other paperwork. It's going to cost thousands to get through this. On our side is that it's a first offense, he wasn't far over the legal limit, he was not driving dangerously, and no one was hurt. Right now it's just wait and see.

I'll continue with this in the next post. Promise.

Well, it's been a day

Happy Monday

If you saw any of my weekend tweets, you might have noticed things were a little tense. Don't know why, don't care, just as long as we continue to get along. It's after 9pm and so far so good.

My boss didn't make it today, so I made the drive for no good reason. He says he'll be there tomorrow. I hope so.

I was supposed to go to the gym today. Um, yeah, didn't make it. Forgot to take my gym shoes to work, left work late, and when I stopped at home to get them, I found out that my baby fell while riding her bike. She got some pretty bad scrapes and was on need of some mommy love. I did the math and if I still went to the gym, I wouldn't get home until after 9 - way too late. So I have skipped and will get back on track Wednesday.

OC is driving us all nuts between her obsession with hockey and her constant studying for her upcoming AP test. I will be so glad when both are over and done.

MC shared a story -- he and a friend, A, had a project. It didn't go so well. Ended with A flat on his back with a bloody nose after flipping over a rail and smacking his head on a wall. Then the teacher fainted on the way to the nurses office. And it's all caught on tape. Can't wait to see it. I've told MC he should write all down too. I also made him call and check on A --he's alright and plans to be on school tomorrow.

Spring has finally fully arrived. All our trees are in full blossom and the handful of tulips that did not get eaten by bunnies bloomed. We will definitely need to plant more bulbs this fall.

And I am having way too much fun with my iPhone.

So, that's the update from Casa Robin

-- From My iPhone