Friday, November 30, 2007

Out of Sorts

Don't know what the deal is this last month, but tensions are high -- meaning that while I do have spanking related posts I could write, I just can't do it. I'm concerned that if I really sit down and start typing away, I will end up venting and this will turn into one big bitchfest -- not at all what this blog is supposed to be about. And while I do have the other blog where I could bitch away, I really don't want to dwell on how miserably hellish things have been all month.

So, in an effort not to ramble on into nasty venting, I'm keeping this short and sweet, and hoping that everyone else out there is enjoying spankings and sex and loving, supportive companionship. And for those with blogs, keep on posting so I can live vicariously through you :D

Friday, November 23, 2007

Glamour Poll -- Sexy Do's & Don'ts

I was just reading the December 2007 Glamour magazine and one of the articles was the results of a poll on sexual do's and don'ts. The published results were based on a sampling of 2,000 of the respondents from an online poll with 10,000+ respondents at glamour.com and menshealth.com.

Along with foreplay, toys, and porn, they also asked questions about anal sex and S and M.

Anal Sex --
* Trying it just once, just to see --
63% of women and 81% of men say it's a DO
*Making it a regular part of your repertoire --
81% of women and 57% of men say it's a DON'T (one woman's comment was "ow", and my response to that is that they're just not doing it correctly then).

A Little S and M --
*Getting tied up or tying up your partner --
70% of men and women say it's a DO (a woman commented: "It can be really hot to forfeit control and feel a little vulnerable, as long as you trust the person)
*Some playful spanking --
77% of men and women say it's a DO (a side note on this one mentions that in 2004, 63% of respondents called spanking a DO, and now it's up to 77%)

So, what's my point in posting this information? I do it because so many of us for so long were made to feel as though something was wrong with us for enjoying anal sex and/or D/s activities. When you see that in 3 short years the number of people who admit to enjoying spanking has gone up 14%, I can't help but feel like saying, "see, see, it's not weird or strange or crazy -- more people like it than don't." And I think the blogging activities of Bonnie, Grace, Annie, and all those other inspiring spankos (far too many for me to list here) who have been blogging for at least the last couple of years have certainly helped people (like me) not only accept but embrace their spanko-ness (not a real word, but you know what I mean).

Monday, November 19, 2007

Sleepy & Horny - Oh The Dilemma

I posted prematurely last night about no fun. No spanking, but definitely sex.

Right after I posted, I shut down my computer and turned off the light. I guess 3 hours of sleep had somewhat refreshed DH as he rolled over and spooned me. I have this little habit of not wearing much to bed generally, but when I shower before bed I wear nothing at all -- something to do with being shaved, scrubbed, oiled/lotioned and not wanting to spoil it by putting any clothing on. So, having spent the time to shower last night, I crawled into bed completely nude. DH took his time rubbing his hands over my lightly oiled body, paying more attention to my bottom than any other part -- rubbing, patting, squeezing, light spanking. At some point he whispered in my ear that he was horny (no duh) and thrust his hips forward so a very hot & hard part of his anatomy pressed up invitingly against my bottom. I couldn't help but thrust back, making appreciative noise. There's just something about the feeling of a hard cock pressing up against my bottom and the way it just fits just right.

DH went on to tell me that he'd had four dreams in a row where he was having sex with me. He was confused about whether he was dreaming or was he awake, were we really having sex... Finally he woke up enough to realize that they were dreams and that in order to be able to fall asleep he was just going to have to make the dreams reality.

I should mention that DH has been horny ever since he came home on Friday. Friday night he slept curled around me (usually we're not touching during sleep -- my issue not his as I find it very difficult to sleep while being held), then there was a quickie Saturday morning, and more sex Saturday night (briefly described in yesterday's post), and then last night. No spankings, but plenty of sex.

So, DH stroked and touched, then he took my right hand and guided it to his cock, directing me to stroke and squeeze (he's always telling me I have magic hands *grin*). I offered to give him a handjob, a chance to get the release without having to do all the hard work of fucking me, but he turned my offer down and then rolled me onto my back. DH's right hand moved its way down my body, eventually reaching the sensitive creases at the tops of my inner thighs. He played there for awhile, enjoying the slick smoothness of my shaved and lightly oiled skin, before moving onto my mound and then sliding his fingers down into my moist slit. DH also has magic hands, and he proved it by fingering me to shuddering orgasm.

Knowing how tired DH was, I offered to try being on top, with try being the operative word as neither of us is really in the right shape for it. But try I did, reverse cowgirl, so he could see his favorite part of my anatomy. After a few minutes of this, DH decided doggy-style was the way to go, so I was instructed to get on all fours and he quickly moved into position behind me and thrust in. Being already primed by the manual orgasm, it did not take me long to orgasm from penetration, and again, and again. Screaming into the pillow -- I am so not quiet during sex, just can't be and still fully enjoy the experience. If I have to concentrate on being quiet, I can't concentrate on all the delicious feelings DH is treating me to. Now, DH is quiet, but I can always tell when he's about to come as his breathing changes, plus I can feel him swell and get even bigger and harder, so it's not unusual for me to come again at the same time he does. And so it was last night, my screaming and shuddering as he filled me with his hot, liquid gift.

And after... snuggling and cuddling and relaxing post-coitus till we were calmed and ready to fall asleep. And we always sleep better after a good fuck :D

Sunday, November 18, 2007

Where's My Spanking?

So here I am snuggled up in bed with my laptop. Yes, DH is home. No, we are not having any fun tonight.

Earlier this evening there had been a definite mention of a good girl spanking. After feeling like crap yesterday, I got up this morning and did all laundry including bath rugs and our comforter; made the bed; dusted the bedroom furniture; cleaned up in the bathroom (DH's side was a mess); cleared away some piles; cleaned up my closet; vacuumed our bedroom, bathroom, bedroom office, upstairs landing, and YC's bedroom. While I worked inside, DH was hard at work outside planting bulbs and raking. Mixed in with all our hard work was constant pushing at the kids to get their assigned chores done. All in all, a tiring day.

While working on dinner, I mentioned to hubby how much work I'd done and the spanking conversation started.

"I'll have to check, and if it's not clean like I like it, you'll get a spanking." Said with a big grin on his face.

"And if it is good, I'll get a good girl spanking." Said with much hope and excitement.

"A good girl spanking? Yeah... and some good sex."

So I'm cleaning up after dinner, doing the last bit of laundry, making sure everything's done, and DH comes upstairs, reclines on the bed to watch TV, and falls asleep. AAAAGGGGGHHHHH.

(I shouldn't complain too much as last night we did have sex -- I was fingered to orgasm, then told to get in position where I received a small spanking before he entered me; it didn't take long for my first orgasm, then another, then he pulled out and entered me anally, where I orgasmed again. And all while I still wasn't feeling 100% well.)

Now I'm going to have to try and collect on the promise, and this is not the first time a spanking has been promised and never received. I just don't seem to be able to get him to understand what it means to me to have him spank me. (Wish I could get him to read some of the other blogs out there...) Just have to keep reminding myself "four day weekend, four day weekend" and hope I get what I need.

Saturday, November 17, 2007

DH is Home

Arc De Triomphe

DH got home yesterday from his most recent trip (France, Denmark & Sweden). We're taking it easy this weekend as he's tired from travelling & I'm suffering some unusual aches and pains (if they're still around tomorrow, it's off to the doctor I go on Monday). Plus we have a four-day weekend coming up.

He did share a little gem with me:

While in France, in the hotel, he turned on the TV, and what did he see?

Spanking!!

He has no idea of the movie (he doesn't speak, read, or understand French), but he watched the man spank the woman with a ping-pong paddle, and then they switched and she spanked him. And he found himself excited enough by the movie to, well, you know....

This is amusing to me, as DH is constantly telling me that he only enjoys spanking because he is spanking me and he loves any contact at all that he can have with my backside. I think he still has some denial issues about the whole spanking and dominance thing and is uneasy with the thought that he really does enjoy controlling me and doing things to me that (obviously) cause pain. I can understand -- it took me a while to accept that I'm a submissive and a spanko, and I had several months head start. And it's certainly not considered PC or feminist-minded to want these things (although we do notice more and more references and comments about spanking and BDSM in mainstream shows, magazines, & books).

I know switching was Bonnie's MBS Brunch last week, that I just didn't get a chance to comment on, but I can state here that DH has stated in no uncertain terms that I will NEVER spank him, that he's the spanker, not the spankee and never will be. And that's fine with me. I do sometimes wonder what it might be like to be the top, but if it were ever to happen it would be more as a role-play than any sort of way of life. I know it works for some people, it's just not right for me and DH.

So, it's been weeks since the last spanking, and it doesn't like any this weekend, probably not til next weekend, but who knows, if I'm lucky DH may decide he just needs to ... Of course, I'll let you know.

Wednesday, November 14, 2007

Meme: Me A to Z

Just for fun, and to take up some space, thought I'd share this. Found it on another blog, just can't remember which right now (still fighting zombie-itis).



Available or Single?
Neither – monogamously married.

Best Friends? My hubby

Cake or Pie? Cake, usually

Drink of Choice? Non-alcoholic – water, followed closely by Dr. Pepper
Alcoholic – White Russian, Chocolate Martini, Mojito

Essential Item? Laptop, books, water

Favorite Color? Emerald green

Gummi Bears or Worms? Bears

Hometown? Somewhere in the U.S.

Indulgence? Books & high-quality European chocolates, staying up late & sleeping in

January or February? February, cuz spring is in sight

Kids & Names? I have 3, known to those who read my blogs as Oldest Child (OC), Middle Child (MC), & Youngest Child (YC)

Life is Incomplete Without? Special people to share it with

Marriage Date? 8 June 1993

Number of Siblings? 3 – 1 sister, 2 brothers – all younger

Oranges or Apples? Apples (but absolutely not Red Delicious – yuck, yuck, yuck)

Phobias/Fears? Falling, not heights (6” and shaky is just as bad as 60’ & shaky, but 600’ and secure/stable is no problem)

Favorite Quote? Writing & reading is to me synonymous with existing. – Gertrude Stein

Reasons to Smile? Beautiful weather, silly kids, good books, a lazy day, blissful sex

Tag 3 People? Nope, do it if you want to

Unknown Fact About Me? I was not born in the U.S.

Vegetable You Hate? Brussel sprouts

Worst Habit? Letting things pile up (drives my hubby crazy)

X-rays You’ve Had? Left hand, head

Your Favorite Foods? Chocolate, apples, peanut butter M&Ms, good steak

Zodiac? Sagittarius

Monday, November 5, 2007

Still Here ...

Just checking in. I will post something spanking related later this week, but in the meantime, if you want to read about my crazy last week, I've posted about it on my other blog Robin's Nesting Spot. I'm just too freaking tired to repeat it all here, especially since it's not even remotely spanking related (except for how it relates to not getting any spankings, or anything else , for the last week).